"Cover me!" They covered him, and when the state of fear was over, he said to Khadija, "O Khadija! What is wrong with me?

𝑨 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒎 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒎 𝒉𝒂𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒅. 𝑰𝒕’𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒃𝒚 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆’𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇. The life of Muhammadﷺ shows he was Prophet of God, a leader and a family man with immense duties on his shoulders. Yet heﷺ didn’t think twice about turning to his wife in times of difficulty. Khadijah(ra) was there to counsel him as revelation first began, offering words of comfort that allayed his fears by saying; “‘No, for by Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You uphold the ties of kinship, you speak truthfully, you help the poor and destitute, you serve your guests generously and assists those who are stricken by calamity.’

She then suggested he seek out Waraqah ibn Nawfal, which he did.

At the truce of Hudaibiyah, the Prophetﷺ ordered his companions to sacrifice the animals brought along for the purpose and shave their heads. Disappointed at not performing umrah due to the treaty, they seemed reluctant to obey. Upset, the Prophetﷺ withdrew to his tent, telling his wife Umm Salamah(ra) what happened. Astutely, she advised him not to speak of it again, rather go back out and offer the sacrifice and shave his head (which he did), confident his companions would come round and follow; which they did.

When the Prophet’s wife Aisha(ra) was wrongfully accused and became a subject of malicious gossip and slander the Prophetﷺ became upset. He turned to his wife Zainab bint Jahsh(ra) seeking her thoughts. Zainab(ra) promptly said she’d shunned the talk that would defile her ears, eyes and tongue with such terrible accusations. Swearing by Allah(swt) Zainab(ra) said she found Aisha(ra) to be truly God-fearing and had not seen anything in her but goodness and virtue. Aisha(ra) said after that Zainab(ra) could’ve easily taken advantage of the situation saying otherwise, knowing they were natural ‘rivals’ in seeking the Prophet’sﷺ affection. Instead Zainab(ra) defended her and never misused her ability to give counsel as a wife and Aisha(ra) never forgot that Zainab(ra) stood by her at the worst time in her life, when so many turned against her.

While there are clear roles defined for spouses, as an amir of his household the Prophet’s ﷺ relationships with his wives were never so autocratic as to not value their opinions or advice. A successful marriage is one that has mutual trust, communication and respect as evidenced from the exemplary life of the Prophetﷺ and his wives.🌙

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